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    Quote Originally Posted by Nalano View Post
    Because I like to hear myself speak.*

    I work in a high school. You want people to become free thinkers? You start young.
    Heh, I only have the energy to reply to a couple of the comment threads, I can't imagine how much it must take to do it over an entire day, 5 days a week.
    I agree completely that education is the key.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Snargelfargen View Post
    Heh, I only have the energy to reply to a couple of the comment threads, I can't imagine how much it must take to do it over an entire day, 5 days a week.
    I wonder the same about people who still run the MMO grind treadmill.
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    Quote Originally Posted by UnravThreads View Post
    It's hardly a "submissive" or "demeaning" act either
    I'm not talking about the act. I'm talking about the associations we have with it. And everyone is aware of those associations because they're deeply embedded in the cultural consciousness. Same as if you were to hand someone a list of characteristics (e.g. caring, disciplined, etc.) divided into two columns and ask them to identify which column is male and which female. Everyone knows the answer regardless of any explicit beliefs to the contrary that they may hold.

    Why is it 'suck my dick' and not 'get on me'? Indeed the former is often said by heterosexual males to other males, which suggests that power, not sex, is the foremost association with the act: it's about the other assuming the inferior, submissive, female role.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rii View Post
    Why is it 'suck my dick' and not 'get on me'? Indeed the former is often said by heterosexual males to other males, which suggests that power, not sex, is the foremost association with the act: it's about the other assuming the inferior, submissive, female role.
    This makes me think of something a friend was telling me about Saudi Arabia. He said that because getting any time alone with a girl was so hard, the locals treated gay sex as an acceptable alternative. No bad connotations, no notion of "homosexuality". BUT, whether you were the bottom or the top was regarded as significant in terms of maintaining your masculinity.
    I think prison culture and Greco-Roman ideals knit with that idea too. It's power.

    Hell, even how English forces you to phrase the idea of wanting to suck someone's else cock - "Let me suck your cock" - shows the power dynamic. Compared to the command "Suck my cock" it's weak, submissive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Snargelfargen View Post
    And yeah, nobody ever admits they are wrong on the internet.
    It's worse than that. Even in non-sexually/emotionally/politically/morally charged conversation and even in places with relatively intelligent forum-dwellers as RPS, it's difficult enough to even get people to acknowledge an opinion other than theirs is even valid. Take MMOs as a prime example that most people have an opinion on. People who don't like them invariably refuse to hear any defence of them without labelling it as bleating, and people who adore them won't hear any criticism of them without branding it as hate-everything elitism. Even with people who are clearly intelligent, the majority of internet discussion is people just shouting their opinions at each until everyone gets bored/depressed.

    Quote Originally Posted by Snargelfargen View Post
    But some of those proud people do go to bed and wake up the next day with a changed opinion.
    Do they, though? I can't speak for comments threads as I don't have any real set memory/opinion of more than a few comments thread-ers, but I've been on a few forums in my time and if anybody's opinion has been changed by another member I've very rarely seen them admit it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Keep View Post
    This makes me think of something a friend was telling me about Saudi Arabia. He said that because getting any time alone with a girl was so hard, the locals treated gay sex as an acceptable alternative.
    Wait, seriously? I know I've read before that in (some, at least) Islamic countries or cultures it's considered completely normal for young boys or young men to have homosexual thoughts and that it's just acting upon them that's the issue.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ian View Post
    Wait, seriously? I know I've read before that in (some, at least) Islamic countries or cultures it's considered completely normal for young boys or young men to have homosexual thoughts and that it's just acting upon them that's the issue
    Well I'm no authority and this is a third-hand source for you, but yeah so my mate said. Grain of salt if you're going to treat it as a Fact I think.

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    It's political correctness gone mad. You can't even get into a bath with an electric fire now in case a gay sees and gets annoyed! And they banned Christmas!


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    You can't really argue with bigots and get anywhere, but the preponderance of insults like 'cocksucker', 'whore', 'mong' and even racial epithets in modern culture comes from people using them without any specific prejudice behind them. I honestly don't think most the teenage boys throwing out insults like that online are doing it because they hate gays, blacks or the disabled. They're doing it to get attention or because they don't know any better.

    And by calmly pointing out that, actually, some people might be genuinely upset by those words, you can get somewhere.

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    If I might pick a minor point of contention and run with it...

    The OP is a plausible story of how and why 'cock sucker' came to be an offensive term, but it leaves unanswered the question of what it means to say that a word/term is homophobic or sexist or racist or whatever (I'll just say 'bigoted' for now). I suspect this could be a bigger part of the problem in many cases.

    Taken completely literally of course, the meaning of 'word x is bigoted' is absurd. Clearly, words can't picket gay pride parades or inappropriately touch their wordy-secretaries. Obviously that's not what anyone is trying to say, but the speaker's intention is not always obvious. I can think of at least four different things a person could be trying to get at when they describe a word as bigoted:

    1. The word is only really used by bigots, to express contempt towards the particular group of people they happen to dislike. If you use this word, we can safely assume you're one of the bigots.

    2. The use of word implies that the speaker has some deep-seated prejudices, even if the speaker is not aware of this or attempting to communicate those prejudices consciously.

    3. The word carries some powerful negative connotations for certain people, and hearing it provokes a powerful, involuntary reaction. Even if the speaker is honest and adamant that, for them, the word means something entirely different , he/she should be aware of the negative connotations the word carries for others. Common decency recommends that you think twice before using it.

    4. The word just means something bigoted. If you use it, you're a bigot too, regardless of context or what your intended meaning was.

    (note: this list is not intended to be exhaustive)

    The first three are all, in principle, reasonable arguments to make. The fourth is confused gibberish. The problem is, when you write off a word as bigoted, how is anyone to infer which of these points you're trying to make? If a person can't tell whether you're arguing the sensible #2 or the nonsense #4, then there's little reason for them to pay much attention to you.

    It's not trivial which of the arguments you make either. Something like 'the n-word' falls clearly under #1, but not #2 or #3, whereas words like 'cock sucker' or 'faggot' will likely fall under #2 or #3. If you accuse someone of #1, when in reality they're closer to #3, then of course they're going to call you a lunatic and move on. If, on the other hand, you accurately accuse them of #3 and they can see that you're right, then maybe they might just pay attention to what you have to say.

    (also: that's not to claim that I have some magic formula for beating bigotry, it's just an anecdotal observation of how these things to tend to play out)


    I strongly suspect that there are large chunks of the BlizzCon comments thread that be ascribed to communications failures of exactly this type, rather than people failing to understand where terms like 'cock sucker' come from.

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    I was expecting some really stupid comment from this forum. Spending too much time on lesser game sites.

    I do agree on many levels with you as well. And may I just say I love the quality of people RPS attracts.

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    I raised this subject in a separate thread because I felt there was much potential for discussion here diverging significantly from the Blizzard/Cannibal Corpse issue.

    And of course it's not just 'cocksucker', amongst all the instances of sexual terms being incorporated into broader language, they are almost universally used to communicate relationships of power, and there's no ambiguity about who's on top and who isn't. The (awesome) phrase 'you're in the getting fucked by us business' is not used to communicate the idea that you're in the position of receiving pleasure whilst exerting little to no effort, but rather that your position in an unpleasant one.

    Language tells many stories (which is why etymonline is one of the best sites on the internets) and most of it predates even contemporary pretensions of equality.

    Quote Originally Posted by choconutjoe View Post
    3. The word carries some powerful negative connotations for certain people, and hearing it provokes a powerful, involuntary reaction. Even if the speaker is honest and adamant that, for them, the word means something entirely different , he/she should be aware of the negative connotations the word carries for others. Common decency recommends that you think twice before using it.
    This comes closest to my own perspective on the matter, but I think it's a two-way street. Just as A should be aware that certain terms are likely to be offensive to B, B should be aware that A may not intend offence by uttering them. If the two parties engage one another in good faith and with mutual tolerance and understanding, there shouldn't be any difficulties in negotiating whatever challenges arise.

    Someone who deliberately chooses to use a word that he knows others find offensive merely on account of some 'ur not the boss of me' sentiment is being a jerk. Similarly, someone who flies into a rage at the innocent utterance of certain words so as to attempt to shame or coerce the unfortunate offender is also being a jerk. Each of these positions can be encouraged or discouraged by the manner in which the issue is broached: insult the offender, force them on the defensive, and they will likely become ever more entrenched in their corner and unwilling to consider alternative perspectives. Broach the issue in a way that leaves them unthreatened, and miracles of good will and harmony can occur in the unlikeliest of places. The nature of communication over the internet makes the hostile polarisation of views very, very easy.

    Quote Originally Posted by choconutjoe View Post
    The OP is a plausible story of how and why 'cock sucker' came to be an offensive term, but it leaves unanswered the question of what it means to say that a word/term is homophobic or sexist or racist or whatever
    Then there's the issue of whether using words/terms that have problematic roots -- the lack of a gender-neutral pronoun in English and the consequent prevalence of the 'universal he', for example -- actively serves to perpetuate the social structures in which those practices arose.

    For my part I suspect the answer is 'probably, a bit.' But as to what if anything is to be done about it I don't know. Most proposed solutions to these issues tend to be rather awkward and self-conscious in practice, although 'Ms.'* seems to have caught on well enough. And in any case I think there's something to be said for preserving the uncomfortable products of the past.

    * I enjoy Ambrose Bierce's account of this issue:

    MISS, n.
    The title with which we brand unmarried women to indicate that they are in the market. Miss, Missis (Mrs.) and Mister (Mr.) are the three most distinctly disagreeable words in the language, in sound and sense. Two are corruptions of Mistress, the other of Master. In the general abolition of social titles in this our country they miraculously escaped to plague us. If we must have them let us be consistent and give one to the unmarried man. I venture to suggest Mush, abbreviated to Mh.
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    Quote Originally Posted by deano2099 View Post
    I honestly don't think most the teenage boys throwing out insults like that online are doing it because they hate gays, blacks or the disabled. They're doing it to get attention or because they don't know any better.
    Or because, being teenage boys, they expect everybody to have as much of a disregard for offensive language as they do to the point where they're just another set of words.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ian View Post
    Or because, being teenage boys, they expect everybody to have as much of a disregard for offensive language as they do to the point where they're just another set of words.
    Or because any self-selected group tends to become other-phobic through the inbreeding of their memes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rii View Post
    sucking cock is a woman's job
    I find this a bit offensive, not all women are prostitutes. My mother isn't, for example.
    You aren't technically a prostitute if you aren't charging money, so she's back home for christmas :D

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    Quote Originally Posted by clippa View Post
    I find this a bit offensive, not all women are prostitutes. My mother isn't, for example.
    You aren't technically a prostitute if you aren't charging money, so she's back home for christmas :D
    Are you implying that your mother has never performed fellatio?

    Do you know this for sure?
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    sorry what's all this about cocksucking?
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    Quote Originally Posted by acidtestportfolio View Post
    sorry what's all this about cocksucking?
    No idea. At a quick-glance, it looks like some cocksucker somewhere decided to empower some other cocksucker by taking personal offence at the long-standing cultural tradition of using the term "cocksucker" as a general insult, and a bunch of other cocksuckers got their lady-panties in a twist because they felt that the title of "cocksucker" should totally be saved for really special occasions.

    Ironically, all that this really achieves is to make terrible people feel really big and important when they look down on other people, be they either hardened homophobes or the types of unthinking passive-aggressive nutjobs that routinely patrol these kinds of threads.

    Hmmmm.

    I really hope that my usage of the phrase "got their lady-panties in a twist" when clearly referring to those whom are clearly hetero-identifying males does not offend anybody. I would like to unreservedly state at this point that I have nothing but the utmost respect for transgender-identifying persons, as well as bitches everywhere and those who simply find feminine underwear more comfortable or appropriate for whatever reason.

    Also:

    It's political correctness gone mad!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Taidan View Post
    political correctness
    The straight-faced use of this term is a pretty reliable indicator that the speaker has absolutely nothing useful to say, but they don't usually leave it till the end to say it. =/

    Quote Originally Posted by Taidan View Post
    Ironically, all that this really achieves is to make terrible people feel really big and important when they look down on other people, be they either hardened homophobes or the types of unthinking passive-aggressive nutjobs that routinely patrol these kinds of threads.
    There's certainly someone here just oozing passive-aggressiveness I'll grant you that.

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    Hmm... this thread does not contain what I'd hoped for.

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