A Pulse-Pounding, Heart-Stopping Dating Sim Round-Up

I do so love the blend of madness, sincerity, and unbridled subversion game jams often inspire. While genres normally build on themselves – ripping conceits and mechanics from compatriots like oily scrap from a spent machine – jams often operate in reverse: curious developers tear down everything that’s been established and rebuild, in their own image, from the ground up. I say this because – presumably like most of you – I don’t really play dating sims. Outside of obsessively wooing Tali and Garrus in Mass Effect, they’re just not my thing. But when I heard about the Pulse-Pounding, Heart-Stopping Dating Sim Jam, I was actually kind of thrilled. Here was an opportunity for new interpretations, new beginnings, new relationships. It did not disappoint in the slightest. These are some truly beautiful games. And yes, that’s definitely a T-Rex. 

Benthic Love

Benthic Love is probably my favorite. The others are equally great, but for me personally, this tale of, um, Angler Fish mating habits struck the most resonant chord. In short, you play as a male grappling with the fact that, once he pinpoints a suitable female using his incredible olfactory glands, he’ll fuse with her and cease to be. Yes, that is apparently actually how Angler Fish mating works. It’s kind of powerfully metaphoric when you think about it though (even if its creator didn’t intend it), and the juxtaposition of simply marveling at the alien majesty of deep sea life and the doom that’s literally gnawing a hole in the pit of your scaly stomach creates a beautifully contemplative mood. And then, when you finally meet a female…

Benthic Love made me tear up a little. Such a strange, joyful, tragic thing.

How To Be Happy

While a lot of the entries I tried out ended up being – at least, to some extent – fairly literal, How To Be Happy dove headfirst into the bracing waters of gleeful abstraction. It is, however, quite excellent for it. Admittedly, it’s not the hardest metaphor to crack (over the course of history, relationships have been equated to puzzles nearly as often as they’ve been tied to teenage vampire drama), but the various stages of this one are what make it. Gentle sound effects, nerve-wracking uncertainty, frantically mashing your mouse to hold it all together. In some ways, How To Be Happy nails the feeling of dating/being in a relationship better than any dating sim. Which, I suppose, is why it’s often unfair.

Kindness Coins

In essence, Kindness Coins is a game about being the object of a typical dating sim protagonist’s constant, achingly gradual advances. For that reason alone, it’s basically hilarious, but underneath all the winking and nudging is an earnest tale of coming to grips with who you actually are and what you’re attracted to. The end result is charmingly chilled out and even a little mundane. The big moment of conflict fizzles pretty quickly, but – in spite of all the tree demons and bunnyclopses – it makes the whole tale feel grounded. In short, life happens. It’s messy and awkward and desperately in need of alcohol for a bit, but things have a way of working out eventually. Especially when you are maybe some kind of Satan.

Magical Maiden Madison

Christine Love (of Digital: A Love Story, Analogue: A Hate Story, etc fame) worked her brand of textual magic on this one, and it’s… well. What I mean to say is, you will encounter… hm. Yeah, OK, Magical Maiden Madison is about crazy freaky anime tentacles. If you’ve ever spent any substantial amount of time on the Internet, you can probably hazard a guess as to what they do. You’re a magical girl (think Sailor Moon, but more modern) processing the aftermath of a, er, battle by text messaging a friend. It’s mostly hilarious, but with some intriguingly frank subtext about atypical/kinky sexual experiences, portrayals of female heroes, culture both Western and abroad, and possibly the lasting effects of physical/emotional trauma, depending on how you read it. Also squids.

Jurassic Heart

Date a dinosaur! Help him buy a ukulele! Discover his dark and tragic secret! (Jurassic Heart‘s actually super adorable and heartfelt somehow. Also, it’s the Citizen Kane of games.)

Until Our Alien Hearts Beat As One

Disclaimer: RPS contributor and hero of the truest justice Porpentine created UOAHBAO, but it’s too interesting of an idea to not include. In short, it’s a multiplayer Twine game about beauty taking on many multi-tendriled, eyeball-ridden, gelatinous forms and communication across the cavernous boundaries of culture, sans spoken language. One player has only basic ideas – for instance, “avalanche,” “cloud,” “mirror,” “volcano,” and “wind” – to work with, and they must use them to express how they’re feeling to the other.

My girlfriend and I played together. I kept trying to touch her with my chitinous spider legs, but she eventually howled to make her pack come and tear me limb from limb (from limb from limb from, etc). So basically, just like in real life.

Cum High


Dating Sickness

Dating Sickness is kind of what Cum High is to silliness, only with tragedy. It is, in other words, far too over-the-top with its subject matter (YOU ARE BEDRIDDEN HE’S THE WORST THIS IS SAD THIS IS SAD THIS IS OH SO DREADFULLY SAD), but it explores a dating scenario I – as an impetuous, mostly healthy youth – had never considered. Worth chewing on. Just maybe don’t expect a particularly filling meal.

Aegis Wing

Aegis Wing is another utterly beautiful standout, and perhaps the most quietly, comfortably heartfelt of all the ones I played. Sure, Anna Anthropy (yes, the one from Cara’s excellent interview) might be mostly telling her story, but the singular choice you eventually make hits like a megaton missile. Beyond that, it’s a magnificently personal tale of honest, actual love with heels hungrily (but only just so) dug into the back of BDSM culture, Anna’s experiences with hormones, travel, game development, education, distance, dependence, pleasure, and pain. Plenty of pain. Sometimes, it’s excruciating.

But mostly, Aegis Wing is about love. Fearful love. Distant love. Ravenous love. Mundane love. Love like a tidal wave.

Rogue (1980)

Urgh, I can’t actually get Rogue (1980) to work right now, but it’s apparently Rogue – yes, the original – with elements of flirtation, interest, and hugging. D’aaaaaaaaaaaw.


  1. bleeters says:

    And here I thought Hatoful Boyfriend, a game in which a human girl dates pigeons, would be the weirdest of the genre.

    But nope. Dinosaurs.

  2. tobecooper says:

    I googled ‘T-rexes mating’ because that question just never crossed my mind.
    The first hit is Daily Mail’s article in Science & Tech. They’ve got pictures too.
    They somehow made T-Rexes smile extremely pervy smiles.

    Arguably, this is a fantastic material for a horror game.

    • Gap Gen says:

      They can do it fairly OK, but sometimes they need a little hand.

      • Lord_Mordja says:

        Call me prehistoric if you like, but a relationship between a girl and a dinosaur is just wrong!

        • Gap Gen says:

          I’m fine with it as long as the dinosaur is a man. No to gay reptile-human marriage!

    • JackShandy says:

      Speaking of crazy mating rituals; When two males mate, they get a third whale (or “Bro” whale) to hold them up so that they don’t sink to the bottom.

      Also horsehair worms are this parasite that lives inside grasshoppers. When it’s time to mate they take control of the grasshopper, force it to drown itself in the nearest lake, then crawl out of it to mate with other horsehair worms doing the same thing.

      Nature is beautiful.

      • LionsPhil says:

        When two males mate, they get a third whale (or “Bro” whale) to hold them up so that they don’t sink to the bottom.

        I never realised homosexuality carried such logistical complexities.

        • Kitsunin says:

          Oh man, no wonder my gay friends have such a huge aquarium!

      • lordcooper says:

        I tried to find a mention of ‘bro whales’ existing and couldn’t find any mention of it other than one dubious looking site (link to bigsiteofamazingfacts.com) that says this doesn’t in fact happen. Got a source?

      • Geen says:

        God bless your glorious, fucked up heart, nature.

  3. Lord Korax says:


  4. analydilatedcorporatestyle says:

    I thought ‘Cara’s excellent interview’ was a game. Sadly it has yet to be realised ouside of my mind.

    The good news is I am rendering a T-Rex size ploit hazmat

  5. notevenbotherered says:

    Cum High was brilliant, play it!

    • The Random One says:

      Indeed. That dude didn’t need caps to pull off frantic shouting.

      But I didn’t like the game it is as much as I like the game it implies – a dating sim that stops on its tracks on every turn to force you to play an alien-killing minigame.

  6. Ravenholme says:

    Anna Anthropy’s game was great (Especially that ending, that made me smile like a loon) and very emotionally touching.

  7. cjlr says:

    Sometimes I like to play really trashy and mawkish dating sims (alcohol is usually involved). It is the absolute guiltiest of my guilty pleasures.

    That said, having these on hand might just make my weekend.

  8. LionsPhil says:

    I am saddened that I didn’t hear of this when it was starting.

  9. kalirion says:

    For anyone who is interested in learning more about the majestic creature that is the angler fish, here are some True Facts.

  10. Namo says:

    Haha I was a bit worried I went a little overboard with my game Dating Sickness but generally I feel it was something I had to do. The scenario in it always lingers in the back of my mind.

    Looks like you’ve got most of my favorites here, especially Aegis Wing which I thought was extremely sweet and heartfelt, but I’d also like to bring to attention “Detergent” and the entry by Rowan Carmichael.

  11. Stackler says:

    Wow.. I really liked “Aegis Wing”. If only AAA games had that kind of emotional impact.

  12. Harpsichord says:

    It’s been a while since I read that “Why So Few Violent Games?” article. So interesting to see a game from the “Weirverse”. I hope it isn’t the last

    Also, I hope he gets it working on Windows at some point so I can actually play it =/

  13. strangeloup says:

    Holy crap, I actually know (or at least used to) the person who made Kindness Coins, and their boyfriend. [Edit: It is also, by a long chalk, the best one out of the ones I tried. Admittedly I didn’t try the one with the T-Rex yet so that might be better.]

    But then I quit Tumblr forever because it is completely ludicrous.

    • The Random One says:

      Creating a twitter account to reblog what people post in tags you obviously dislike and/or disagree with as a way of mocking them, now that’s ludicrous…

      • strangeloup says:

        To be fair, it doesn’t seem to be hugely misrepresentative of Tumblr as a whole. (Also, I’ve no idea who runs it; certainly not me.) Honestly, I saw stuff like that all the time without the slightest inclination of going to look for it.

  14. rockman29 says:

    Wow Taira-kun T-Rex is a dick! I offered to buy his Ukelele for him! Lol!

  15. 00000 says:

    This is why I come to RPS. To read about games I’ll never touch and lulz.

  16. Jay says:

    “I say this because – presumably like most of you – I don’t really play dating sims.”

    “In some ways, How To Be Happy nails the feeling of dating/being in a relationship better than any dating sim.”

    How do you figure that if you haven’t really got a frame of reference?

  17. Hahaha says:

    Dating sims, really?

    Might as well just link to
    link to newgrounds.com

    Ahhhh can we please get an article on dating sims authored by john?